Sharing My Heart With My Readers – Struggles With Our Adopted Children

I do not have the perfect family situation like you may think I have. My family has struggles like most families have.  Every day is a struggle to teach my children that they are loved and God loves them.  This has been extremely difficult to teach two children that had never bonded with anyone, never experienced someone who cared for them, or experienced someone who loved them.  When I write about trusting God and having Faith in God, I am living a life where I have to Trust and have Faith in God.  Over the past several years, I have needed God’s help more than ever.  I believe that all things work for the Glory of God.  God has all of us in His hands.  His promises are true.  He will take care of His children.
This does not mean that life will not be difficult.  During these extremely challenging times in my life, I could deny God or I could draw closer to Him and believe in His promises to take care of me and my family.  God really does have plans to prosper us and not to harm those who love Him.
After experiencing difficult times in my life, I know that God’s blessings do come. In other words, there is a light at the end of the dark tunnels in our lives. This has been true with almost every hardship that I have experienced.  Since our family is in the middle of a very difficult situation, we keep believing that one day we will see the good that will come out of everything.
I have mentioned often that my husband and I have five children.  Three of our children are biological and two were adopted.  Three of our children have special needs. Caleb is 15 years old.  He has had 17 brain surgeries.  He has cerebral palsy, seizures, and selective mutism.  He is extremely loving.  He reminds us often with his actions what is important in life.  [POST ABOUT CALEB & CALEBS COMFORT CAKES]
Our son was adopted at age 7 1/2 and his biological sister was also adopted at the same time at age 4.  They are currently 13 and 9 years old.  Both our son and our daughter had experienced extreme trauma before they were adopted, which was just revealed to us by our adopted son in 2011. The trauma caused both of them to have RAD, Reactive Attachment Disorder. The main issue with RAD is that they do not trust or love anyone.  The trauma made our son extremely emotional, violent, and angry.  We tried out-patient counseling for both of our children.  We finally had no choice but to find a treatment facility to help our son.  Thank God he is making some progress.  Unfortunately, our daughter is still struggling with bad dreams, depression, and lack of trust.  Outpatient counseling is not helping her either.  We decided to find a treatment facility to help her deal with all the emotional trauma she is currently experiencing.

Please pray that one day both of our children will believe that God has a plan for their lives. God allowed them to be adopted into a Christian home so that they could have the opportunity to learn about Him.  They have learned that God loves them.  They have memorized Bible stories and many Bible verses. They have been learning that God put them in a family to be loved.

I am writing this Post praying that it will help someone else who is struggling with children or any issues where it seems like there is no hopeMy husband and I both truly believe that God has a plan for all of us and He will use us for His Glory one day.

For all of you wondering if we still believe in adoption, YES! We adopted to give two children a chance to be loved and a chance to know God.  Every child needs a loving, caring family and a chance to know God.  I would not wish the past 6 years on anyone, but one day when my children truly accept God, it will have all been worth it.

The one thing I wish I could change in this world is for every orphan to be adopted as babies before they suffer a lot of trauma. Trauma causes RAD, Reactive Attachment Disorder. Trauma can be caused by things early in childhood like neglect and not having their needs met at a young age, which causes them not to trust anyone.

Our Trust is in God more than ever to take care of our children.  Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Blessings Always,   Diane R. – Recipes For Our Daily Bread

About Diane R.

I have been married for 27 years. I am a Christian mom who tries day by day to teach our children that God loves them and He has a special plan for their lives. I love spending time in the kitchen teaching my children to cook while sharing the Word of God. I grew up in an alcoholic home, but God still pursued me and I became a Christian at age 18. My husband and I have five children. Our oldest daughter, Carly, is currently in college studing pre-med. She hopes to one day go on medical missions. We have 15 year old twins named Casey and Caleb. Caleb has had 17 brain surgeries. He has a shunt, cerebral palsy, and seizures. God uses Caleb to teach our family every day what is important. Casey loves sports and Contemporary Christian Music. Our youngest two children, Jonah and Diana, were adopted at age 7 1/2 and 4. They are now 13 and 9. They have RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) which was caused by trauma during the first few years of life. It is a challenge to teach them everyday that we love them and God loves them. I currently have one child that is homeschooled, two children in public school, one child in a Christian school, and one in college. Life can get busy, but I have learned how important it is to always make time for God. You will see me blog often about the life lessons that God uses to humble me and draw me closer to Him. My prayer is that by sharing my experiences with others, it might help someone. I currently have a recipe blog at www.recipesforourdailybread.com, where I share our family's favorite recipes, favorite places, and more. You can read more about our adoption story at www.sweeptheword.com.
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One Response to Sharing My Heart With My Readers – Struggles With Our Adopted Children

  1. You and your readers may find the book:
    Attachment Parenting, (2010), Becker-Weidman, A., & Shell, D., Lanham MD: Jason Aronson
    helpful and a good support.

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